This is dedicated to everyone who ever felt the tremendous pull of a hidden romance, of an affair hidden from the light of day.
Bitterness hurts. Rejection hurts. Jealousy hurts. Love doesn’t know hurt. Love is the best thing we have to stave off bitterness, rejection and jealousy.
The cynics among us like to repeat platitudes like “love hurts” when something goes awry. Those same cynics are the ones too scared to love someone more than they love themselves.
I hear it often on the social mediums and in face-to-face conversations. I hear about how difficult relationships are. Relationships ARE difficult. They’re supposed to be. It’s about building something greater than the individual, greater than the sum of the parts. That’s the idea. Building something great is not in the province of cowards. They gave up years ago. They didn’t have the strength, presence and peace of mind to be a part and that’s fine with me. I don’t want them in my arena.
I hear the other recycled cliche “I don’t want to get hurt” so often it makes my balls hurt. Here’s the deal: in this life, if you’re not getting hurt from time to time, you’re not really living. You’re sitting home on the couch. You’re comfortable. You’re not taking a stand. You’re not making important choices. You’re stagnant and bored and frustrated with yourself but you don’t have the courage to change. This is okay…for a little while. Sometimes we need to lick our wounds. Sometimes we take a serious gamble and take a huge loss for our effort. That doesn’t mean it’s time to quit. If you throw in the towel there is no getting back up.
Go take a risk. Go fall in love. Go dare yourself to venture beyond that area in which you only love yourself and dedicate something to someone. You’ll be better for it and consequently, we’ll all be better for it.