Inner Monologue

When you say you keep falling in and out of love, I’m convinced you don’t know what it means to be in love.

When you say “I don’t know,” and “whatever,” regarding matters of the heart, I’m certain you’re confused about what matters to the heart.

When you say you sabotage your relationships, I’m convinced you’re sabotaging yourself.

When you say you love who you are and you love having me in your life, I’m convinced I love you.

Jam Session No. 2,177

This morning’s jam session is brought to by Alex Chilton, may he rest in peace.

  1. September Gurls - Big Star
  2. From Blown Speakers - The New Pornographers
  3. Stephen, Stephen - Apples in Stereo
  4. Oh, Lately It’s So Quiet - OK, Go
  5. Star Sign - Teenage Fanclub
  6. Victoria - The Kinks
  7. This Will Be Our Year - The Zombies
  8. Rock & Roll - The Velvet Underground
  9. Alone Again Or - Love
  10. You’re Gonna Miss Me - The 13th Floor Elevators

Do you know why the Pentacostals don’t have sex standing up? Because it could lead to dancing. 

Love Doesn’t Hurt

Bitterness hurts.  Rejection hurts.  Jealousy hurts.  Love doesn’t know hurt.  Love is the best thing we have to stave off bitterness, rejection and jealousy.  

The cynics among us like to repeat platitudes like “love hurts” when something goes awry.  Those same cynics are the ones too scared to love someone more than they love themselves.  

I hear it often on the social mediums and in face-to-face conversations.  I hear about how difficult relationships are.  Relationships ARE difficult.  They’re supposed to be.  It’s about building something greater than the individual, greater than the sum of the parts.  That’s the idea.  Building something great is not in the province of cowards.  They gave up years ago.  They didn’t have the strength, presence and peace of mind to be a part and that’s fine with me.  I don’t want them in my arena.  

I hear the other recycled cliche “I don’t want to get hurt” so often it makes my balls hurt.  Here’s the deal: in this life, if you’re not getting hurt from time to time, you’re not really living.  You’re sitting home on the couch.  You’re comfortable.  You’re not taking a stand.  You’re not making important choices.  You’re stagnant and bored and frustrated with yourself but you don’t have the courage to change.  This is okay…for a little while.  Sometimes we need to lick our wounds.  Sometimes we take a serious gamble and take a huge loss for our effort.  That doesn’t mean it’s time to quit.  If you throw in the towel there is no getting back up.  

Go take a risk.  Go fall in love.  Go dare yourself to venture beyond that area in which you only love yourself and dedicate something to someone.  You’ll be better for it and consequently, we’ll all be better for it.  

The Love Song Deconstructed

Because deconstructed is different than destroyed, because Valentine’s Day is nearly here, because the love song will never truly die.

Stream online here:

Download for iTunes here: The Love Song Deconstructed.mp3

Whoa there, Valentine’s Day haters. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we know, we know… We’ve heard all the complaints about manufactured holidays, but what is not manufactured are these remarkable feelings, these thoughts of love, in love, about love. There’s nothing on these cuts that is any different, ANY different, than the classic love songs from the likes of The Righteous Brothers, the Ronettes and so on, except the delivery.

The subject matter is the same as is the depth of emotion. These cuts are here because they are the same prism viewed from a different point of view. Just as our love and changes and evolves, these songs mean something different each time we hear them. In that regard, they more closely reflect love itself than many other classics. Now go grab someone you love and have a dance.

-Duke Wilbury

If you have any suggestions, bitches, gripes, complaints or praise, email the Duke right here: Dukewilbury@gmail.com

The tracks:

  • I Am Trying to Break Your Heart - Wilco
  • The Night - Morphine
  • Last Kiss - J. Frank Wilson & The Cavaliers
  • My Funny Valentine - Chet Baker
  • Needles and Pins - The Searchers
  • Not Fade Away - Buddy Holly & The Crickets
  • I’ll Be There For You/You’re All I Need - Method Man & Mary J. Blige
  • Georgia On My Mind - Ray Charles
  • Dark End of the Street - Cat Power
  • Jolene - Ray LaMontagne
  • Nineteen - Tegan and Sara
  • Sign Your Name - Terence Trent D’Arby
  • That’s Where It’s At - Sam Cooke
  • The Whole Wide World - Wreckless Eric
  • Overjoyed - Stevie Wonder
  • Wild Horses - The Rolling Stones
  • A Man Needs a Maid - Neil Young
  • The Ship Song - Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds
  • You’re All I Need to Get By - Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell
  • In My Life - Johnny Cash
  • Giving Him Something He Can Feel - En Vogue
  • Love Vigilantes - Iron & Wine
  • Oh, It Is Love - Hellogoodbye
  • I Guess That’s Why They Call It the Blues - Elton John
  • A Song For You - Donny Hathaway
  • By Your Side - CocoRosie
  • Romeo & Juliet - Dire Straits
  • Romeo Had Juliette - Lou Reed
  • Closer - Nine Inch Nails
  • I Found a Reason - Cat Power
  • I Will Follow You Into the Dark - Death Cab for Cutie
  • Bonnie and Clyde ‘03 - Beyonce feat. Jay-Z
  • I’m On Fire - Bruce Springsteen
  • Sexual Healing - Ben Harper & The Innocent Criminals
  • Me & My Bitch - Notorious B.I.G.

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Again… sailors with swagger.  The defense rests. 

(via knockontheskyy)

“I have built my entire life around loving music, and I surround myself with it. I’m always racing to catch up on my new favorite song. But I never stop playing my mixes. Every fan makes them. The times you lived through, the people you shared those times with - nothing brings it all to life like an old mix tape. It does a better job of storing up memories than actual brain tissue can do. Every mix tape tells a story. Put them together, and they add up to the story of a life.”
Love is a Mix Tape, Rob Sheffield (via the-exchange)
“Me: I didn’t know I was that good.
Her: Yep. You’re like the Sesame Street of fucking. This orgasm brought to you by the letters J and T and the by the color blue.”
— Z and Me.

Oh Moses… Someone introduced my uncle to Facebook and he’s been going bananas archiving all this stuff from the family archives.  This appears to be my very first girlfriend.  Was her name Sarah? 

When done right, romance never really ends.  It becomes unquenchably hot coals.

When done right, romance never really ends.  It becomes unquenchably hot coals.

Ditto

digmuseum:

I would absolutely put it in neon. I would hang it in the stars if I could.

I love you.

Yes, Those People Are Literally Kissing, On The Ground, In The Street, Amid A Riot
by Claire O’Neill
Some burn couches, others loot from store windows. But, when hockey-induced havoc fills the streets of Vancouver, some people take that opportunity to just flat-out make-out. Seriously, this is real:
"I’m not sure what exactly was going on," photographer Rich Lam confesses on the phone. "I just saw these two people and I thought they were hurt … I didn’t really know what I got until the editor pointed it out."
Hopefully the people in the photo will come forth and explain what, exactly, was going through their heads. Is this the V-J day in Times Square of our generation?

Yes, Those People Are Literally Kissing, On The Ground, In The Street, Amid A Riot

Some burn couches, others loot from store windows. But, when hockey-induced havoc fills the streets of Vancouver, some people take that opportunity to just flat-out make-out. Seriously, this is real:

"I’m not sure what exactly was going on," photographer Rich Lam confesses on the phone. "I just saw these two people and I thought they were hurt … I didn’t really know what I got until the editor pointed it out."

Hopefully the people in the photo will come forth and explain what, exactly, was going through their heads. Is this the V-J day in Times Square of our generation?